Working Together for a Solutionby PEhomepage.com Editorial Team
It can be argued that the male partner is not the main sufferer in a sexual relationship if he is experiencing premature ejaculation (PE).
After all, he is at least reaching orgasm even if it is too soon.
It is his partner who is probably not feeling gratified if the male with PE is not able to maintain an erection for a sufficient amount of time for her to reach orgasm.
This condition can certainly put a strain on a relationship, especially if the PE sufferer is not willing to seek medical help for the condition.
There are many known causes of premature ejaculation, and some of them are psychological.
In addition to temporary stress or depression, there may be communication issues or unresolved conflict between the two partners.
Perhaps the male experienced emotional trauma at some point in childhood such as sexual assault or repression, or discovery by a parent during masturbation as a teenager.
Before starting any type of treatment plan, a discussion with a counselor, psychiatrist or psychologist may be helpful.
To achieve the best possible outcome, it is recommended that one’s partner be included in the counseling sessions.
If it is determined there are no major emotional issues involved, simple start-stop exercises have proven to be effective for many couples.
There are exercises the male can perform by himself, but it is even more effective to practice the following technique recommended by Masters and Johnson that involves both partners:
The female should slowly begin stimulation of the male partner, and stop as soon as he senses he is close to ejaculation.
The female partner should then administer a firm compression, which is uncomfortable but not painful, just behind the glans located at the tip of the penis.
She should press mainly under the penis.
After the male has a feeling of control, stimulation can begin again.
This process should be repeated at least 10 or more times in one session.
After several sessions of practicing this method, the couple should sit facing each other with the female’s legs crossing on top of the male’s.
She should stimulate him by bringing the penis close to her vaginal area and stop when he senses ejaculation is near.
She should then apply the squeeze method until he regains control, and then the process can be repeated.
When the couple feels ready for intercourse, the female should be in the superior position so she can withdraw immediately to apply compression if needed.
This method also assists the female in reaching climax more quickly.
Most men are embarrassed to even bring up the subject of PE with their doctor.
If doctors would ask if there were any sexual concerns as part of a routine examination, it would go a long way in the quest to identify and treat the condition.
But if a PE sufferer really cares about the happiness and satisfaction of his partner, he will find the courage to seek help.
If the start-stop exercises do not work over the long-term, there are alternative therapies and
medications such as serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) that are successfully being used to treat premature ejaculation.
Sources
Coping with Premature Ejaculation by Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy, 2003
“Premature Ejaculation” by Mark Noble, M.D., www.emedicine.com/med/topic643.htm
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